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Do You Need to Buy Another Writing Resource? The Impulsive Information Product Shopper’s Checklist

Posted on September 26, 2016 Written by Pinar Tarhan

Shop Shop Till You Drop. Or you know, run out of money.
Shop Shop Till You Drop. Or you know, run out of money.

Hi, I’m Pinar, and I’m a shopaholic. (Yes, I love and adore the book series (aff.link) by Sophie Kinsella up until there is a baby involved.)

I love shopping so much that I once lost 16 pounds in one summer with shopping (and walking during that shopping) as my only fitness activity.

OK, it is not THAT bad. I can exercise control, and the only debt I go to is during writing contest submission time with one credit card that has a ridiculously low limit. So, not a lot.

But I do love shopping. Clothes, accessories, shoes, make-up, stationery, books, e-books, e-courses…. Ah, yes. Information products.

At this point, I have bought stuff about writing more times than Donald Trump has insulted Hillary Clinton. Or glam metal bands have destroyed the Ozone layer with hair products. Yes, that much.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not an impulsive buyer when it comes to information products on writing. I check out the creator, the content, reviews, and compare with my needs and weaknesses. Then I look at the price and my budget. And then, if it looks like I do in fact need this product, I add it to my shopping cart.

And I find myself checking out products quite often.

Because every time I hit a difficult period, whether I get a few rejections in a row, get writer’s block or hit another frequent roadblock, I love to refresh my knowledge and see what other successful writers have put out there.

But you have to be careful, especially if you are at a stage in your career where you already know a lot, and your main problem isn’t not knowing, but not implementing. Or hitting some career milestone block.

The truth is, sometimes you don’t need to buy anything new, but a visit to your good old library will do.

So to buy or not to buy?

Relax. Some information products are really up-to-date, refreshing and more ass-kicking, and worth every penny. So let’s do a little checklist before we open up our wallets and purses:

  • Is the information new, correct and applicable?
  • Do you get free updates?
  • Does it come in different packages, taking different levels of needs in consideration?
  • Are there payment plans available?
  • Is it in a format you know you will take advantage of?
  • Can you afford it?
  • *How soon can you reap the investment?

*It’s not just about testimonials. You can actually check out referrer’s body of work, website, products, etc. and see for yourself how much they have accomplished, or if you have liked what you have accomplished. Obviously, not everything can or should be attributed to one resource, but you’ll at least have an idea.

  • Is it evergreen? Will the information likely hold up a couple of months from now? And will you always have access to it and its updates?
  • Is the writer/creator open to questions and communication?

You don’t have to say yes to all of these, but if you can’t say yes to more than five, take a breath. Leave that wallet alone. Open the search function of your computer and delve into your library. Make a note of the sources you purchased before, and take a look at their content. See what you are missing. Then walk around and look at your physical library.

Still don’t see what you need? Go through your bookmarks a bit.

You might find this time-consuming, but it is actually one of my favorite methods to come up with new ideas for articles. You also need to organize your files, books and bookmarks anyway, so there’s that advantage.

See? You’ve come up with ideas, done some organizing and have made an informed decision on whether to spend your hard-earned money.

I will try to review each book individually when I get the time, but until then:

My Latest Purchases:

The Essential Guide to Freelance Writing (How To Write, Work and Thrive On Your Own Terms) by Zachary Petit


I was in a shopping mood, browsing through Amazon. I was drawn in by the title and who the author was, but it was the humor of the first couple of pages that drew me in.

In the first chapter, he wrote he “was perplexed by freelancing.” “I had stringers writing for me when I was a weekly newspaper editor, but they were working for beans, and they’d been writing for the paper longer than I’d been there…. I accepted their magical presence but never took the time to find out how they got there.”

I was hooked. The honesty, flow, humor and the fact that he mentioned acid reflux (I have a stomach condition that few people understand so…) I realized this was my kind of writer. Sure, a lot more well-known and successful (he had edited for Writer’s Digest, for crying out loud!) than me, but someone whose style didn’t seem far from my own.

Oh, and the “your own terms” also attracted me. What can I say? I’m a sucker for doing things my way.

I was like “I want to find more about this guy’s journey!”

It has a great deal more about interviews, finding celebrities, pitching, and yes, I learned a lot. Even after six years of freelancing. I wish I had the book in the beginning. So it is one of my go-to books now. We are happy together.

You can buy The Essential Guide to Freelance Writing Freelance Writing (How To Write, Work and Thrive On Your Own Terms) on Amazon. (affiliate link.)

Gina Horkey’s 30 Days or Less to Freelance Writing Success Course

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Because Gina is kind of a big deal in the freelance writing/blogging world. I had heard a lot about her and read some of her guest posts. So I checked out her blog and loved that as well.

After loving all of her content, I wanted to check her writing course as well. Now, you might ask, why the hell are you still checking out writing courses after six years?

Okay for one, you always need to stay up-to-date, and you need to keep adding new skills. Also, I’m not a full-time freelancer, as I’ll go into more detail in my review of the course. (I also write screenplays and actually try to sell them, so that also takes a lot of time. And money.)

Now, don’t be fooled that the picture says “newbie freelancers.” If you are a newbie freelancer, you might indeed have to take the time to take the actions course suggests. But when you are established or semi-established, you can jumpstart your pitching process and writing in record time, while still learning new stuff and adding to the old.

I have the growth package, which has a couple of additional bonuses than the starter package, and it lacks the pitch review and a month of coaching from Gina, that the rockstar package has.

I wanted to learn from her because her writing and personality are lovely, and she is a financial success. An active, private and supportive FB group sounded awesome. (I’m very active on the FB group, both with my own questions and comments trying to help out fellow writers in any way I can.)

I’ll go over the details in my review, but if you want to check this course out, go ahead. You won’t regret it if you pay attention and do the work. Yes, it is a proud affiliate link.

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What resources on writing have you bought recently?

 

 

 

 

 

Filed Under: Career Management for Writers, Inspiration and Motivation, Recommended Resources, Writing Tagged With: best freelance writing resources, freelance writing, freelance writing success, gina horkey, how to become a successful freelance writer, how to make money freelance writing, zachary petit

(Re-)Watched, Published, Read: Sleeping with Other People, Ex Machina and More

Posted on September 8, 2016 Written by Pinar Tarhan

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This writer on vacation

I spent two weeks (one in July and one in August) away from work as I made the most of the sea, sand and beach. Then last week, I went on a self-made writing retreat as I stayed with my grandmother where I pretty much just worked and caught up with my grandma. Oh, and I watched movies.

So without further ado, this is some of what I did post-vacation and during/post retreat. (Please note that this post contains affiliate links.)

Published:

Interests, Education, Location & More: How to Catch Those First Clients with What You Already Have on Be a Freelance Writer.

The One I Love Movie Review: Mixing Sci-fi with Drama and Romance for Writers on this blog.

Dear Women (and Men) Who Don’t Want to Have Kids: You’re Not Alone on my dating blog.

Re-Watched

Mustafa Hakkinda Hersey starring Fikret Kuskan and Nejat Isler

Mustafa Hakkinda Hersey
Image via beyazperde.com.

I’m not the biggest fan of Turkish cinema as many films tend to try the same old plots over and over again, but All About Mustafa is a breath of fresh air. While it might not be the most original story out there, the plot elements, pacing, music and acting take it up to another level.

Starring two of my favorite actors Fikret Kuskan (Mustafa) and Nejat Isler, Mustafa Hakkinda Hersey is a dark drama thriller worth watching:

Mustafa supposedly has the perfect life as a successful businessman, and a great father/ husband. He loves his gorgeous wife and is expectedly devastated when he loses her in a fatal car crash, where she was with a cab driver named Fikret (Nejat Isler).

Deadly curious to find out answers, Mustafa kidnaps Fikret a short time after he is released from the hospital, and the torture begins. As Mustafa shows us he is more than a privileged city boy, we get to know more about his upbringing – which might tell us why he doesn’t exactly seem so mentally stable right now.

And while we might feel sympathy for Mustafa’s pain and get pissed off some of the nonchalance coming from Fikret, it’s easy to change sides as we see more of Mustafa’s dark side. After all, there is a big chance whatever Fikret was doing with his wife, she was a willing participant…

So who the hell is Mustafa, anyway?

Thoughts on Mustafa Hakkinda Hersey:

Strongly recommended. Written and directed by the famous Turkish director Cagan Irmak.

Bicaksirti (Roughly translated: Back of the Blade)

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Characters from left to right: Ali (driver/real father/love interest), Nisan (supposed mother, wife, love interest), Orhan (supposed father, husband, villain/antagonist), Murat (son, cause of everyone’s happiness and problems.) I love this picture because it puts all the main conflicts in one photo.

Rewatched, because it is one of my favorite Turkish series, and if we ignore the sometimes overdone music, one of my favorite series of all time.

Again starring Nejat Isler and Fikret Kuskan, alongside Melisa Sozen (Winter Sleep), Mehmet Gunsur (Hamam) and Vildan Atasever, is a solid drama with strong thriller and romance elements that deserves its own post in my Great Story Conflicts series.

I’ll try to summarize the main plot as well as I can:

Nisan (Melisa Sozen) and Orhan (Kuskan) are an unhappily married couple living in a mansion with their young son Murat, Orhan’s father, Orhan’s younger brother (Mehmet played by Mehmet Gunsur) and the family’s loyal helper of 25 years.

Nisan and Orhan have a secret that they keep from everyone: Murat is not their biological son. When they found out Nisan was sterile, Orhan paid money to a doctor so that they can pass a newborn baby as their own son. Since the mother died during birth and the father was sentenced to life in prison for her murder, it was a life-saving deal for all.

Except the biological father Ali (Isler) is not guilty, and after 10 years, his lawyer/younger sister Gunes (Atasever) finally manages to prove his innocence and get him released. And when he finds out his baby is actually alive and calling two strangers parents, he decides to take him back. But instead of shocking the kid with the news, he confronts Orhan and gets hired as their driver so he can be close.

And if you think things will get complicated because Orhan’s wife Nisan and Ali will soon fall for each other, and Orhan will stop at nothing to protect his secret and fatherhood, you are right. Oh, and Ali’s sister will of course fall for Orhan’s brother because their lives were so simple…

Yeah, I know, I should have drawn a diagram.

The music, and sometimes the not-so-interesting sub-sub-plots might be its flaws, but it is still a great show with constantly stellar acting, especially from the leading characters.

Watched:

Sleeping with Other People starring Alison Brie and Jason Suedekis

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Sleeping with Other People. Image via cineforest.com.

Starring Alison Brie (Community) and Jason Suedekis (SNL, Hall Pass, Horrible Bosses), Sleeping with Other People is a fun, sex-focused romantic comedy where most of the raunchiness comes from the language.

Lainey (Alison Brie) and Jake (Jason Suedekis) lose their virginity to each other and never see each other again until a sex addicts’ meeting many years later:

Lainey is obsessed with the now married old flame Matthew (Adam Scott), and Jake would rather screw his relationship up by sleeping with other people instead of having a honest break-up speech.

After the meeting, they meet up and decide to be friends. They keep on dating people and having sex, but not with each other. They become best friends and build the kind of true intimacy most couples lack. But how long can this arrangement last when it is obvious they are in love with each other?

Co-starring Marc Blucas and Amanda Peet. Featuring Adam Brody.

Thoughts on Sleeping with Other People:

In addition to featuring two actors I don’t see enough of (Blucas, Peet), Suedekis and Lainey make a lovely couple. Sure, you probably wouldn’t want to date either of them as their issues are well…deal-breakers for most people, they are honest, funny and just damaged enough to make wonderful characters.

Please focus on the genre romcom when you are predicting your ending.

Written and directed by Leslye Headland. Give it a try, just not with anyone conservative or overly sensitive around.

Read:

Dead in Venice (spec screenplay, written by my friend Fiona Leitch)

Logline: A successful crime novelist travels to Venice to cure her writers’ block, and finds herself embroiled in a murderous plot involving carnival masks, ghost stories and an Interpol agent with a passion for cheese and a tragic past.

Thoughts on Dead in Venice

Dead in Venice is a page-turning drama, crime, thriller with really funny aspects and some (un)expected darker turns. I had a blast reading it, though I did not predict just how tragic the past of the agent will be. It will be rated R in its current version especially for its crime scenes, which is appropriate for the genre. Oh, and it is romantic too.

Priceless (spec screenplay, written by my friend Fiona Leitch)

Logline: A hopelessly romantic security guard and a downtrodden cleaner steal the world’s most famous painting, but when they realise that a life of crime is not for them and they must return it, Fate seems to have other ideas.

Thoughts on Priceless

Priceless is lovely crime, comedy and romance that combines art theft, soccer fandom and love. It also has a heart when it comes to looking at the life of its protagonists, and it is definitely lighter than Dead in Venice if we are comparing. I strongly recommend both scripts, though Priceless is the obvious choice when you want something less dark.

Riding Aristottle (spec script written by US screenwriter Jon Meyers)

Logline: In 1908, a month prior to her performance review, the country’s first female dean struggles with a private club invitation, while keeping an extra-marital flirtation under wraps from everyone at the university – – especially the jealous Vice Provost.

Thoughts on Riding Aristotle

Riding Aristotle is a dark comedy set in 1908 offering plenty of surprises. It’s a refreshing story,especially with what the private club entails, and a nice blend of what 1908 was, and what the author recreated it to be.

Riding Aristotle offers plenty of external and internal conflicts and obstacles, an ensemble of highly interesting and mostly modern characters (with the exception of the antagonist of course).

Read: Screenplay of the movie Ex Machina, written and directed by Alex Garland

Talented hacker Caleb (Domhall Gleeson) is chosen to spend a week at his genius/billoinare boss Nathan’s (Oscar Isaac) house for a mysterious project. The project/mission turns out that Nathan wants Caleb to “test” the AI he has created named Ava (Alicia Vikander): Can Ava pass for a human despite Caleb knowing she is AI?

As Ava proves more intelligent and seemingly emotional than Caleb has predicted, he starts falling for her. But can she really feel, or is she just good at manipulation? And whatever happens to her if she fails the test?

Thoughts on Ex Machina:

Ex Machina is a well-crafted, original and intrguing script (as well as a worth-seeing movie.) Even though I was hoping for another ending from the moment Caleb checks whether or not …… (blank, because I want to avoid spoilers), I mostly liked the movie.

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So this is it from me for now. What have you read, watched and published? Let me know in the comments. It’s okay if you have rewatched, reread and republished! : )

 

 

Filed Under: Writing Tagged With: alex garland, alison brie, bicaksirti, ex machina, ex machina screenplay, fikret kuskan, jason suedekis, Leslye Headland, melisa dozen, mustafa hakkinda hersey, nejat isler, sleeping with other people, sleeping with other people movie

The One I Love Movie Review: Mixing Sci-fi with Drama and Romance for Writers

Posted on August 31, 2016 Written by Pinar Tarhan

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The One I Love movie poster. Image via richonfilm.com.

The One I Love Movie Plot:

Ethan (Mark Duplass) and Sophie (Elizabeth Moss) try to mend their marriage after Ethan’s cheated, but therapy doesn’t seem to be working. So their therapist (Ted Danson) sends them on a weekend retreat from where other “hopeless” couples like them have returned more in love.

The retreat seems lovely: The pretty house comes with a swimming pool and a guesthouse. But after a short while, Ethan and Sophie seem to experience things together that one of them doesn’t remember having. Which is strange, because we saw them have those experiences. Except the experiences they are not remembering are being lived with an alternate, better version:

Whenever one of them goes to the guesthouse alone, their loved one’s alternate version awaits. The alternate Ethan is cuter, more sensitive, more romantic, funnier. The alternate Sophie is more relaxed, understanding and willing to let bygones be bygones.

While the real, curious Ethan tries to figure out the how and why, Sophie just wants to enjoy the improved Ethan and starts falling for him.

Can Ethan win his wife back from himself and solve the puzzle?

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The One I Love is a brave and interesting blend of genres with some decent questions for any writer and anyone in a complicated relationship. I’ve recently watched more and more romantic sci-fi films, and the blend improves and enriches storytelling opportunities for both genres.

When you are watching a romantic drama or a romantic comedy, you’ll eventually run out of original (yet realistic) reasons of keeping your couple apart. In-laws, personality clashes, societal differences, unfaithfulness,

financial distress, loss of a child, caring for an elderly parent, drifting apart….

And while The One I Love uses drifting apart and cheating for the couple’s initial problems, the movie becomes much more intriguing as the sci-fi part is introduced. What or who are these alternate versions? How does the therapist know about this place? What happens if one partner falls for the “better” version?

As you try to find out, part of you roots for Ethan and feels sorry for him. And part of you roots for the other Ethan, and feels glad as Ethan gets a taste of what he did as Sophie unknowingly slept with the other Ethan. But since the actual world can have only one Ethan and Sophie, which ones will get out?

I thoroughly enjoyed the film. Admittedly, there are parts in the beginning that feel repetitive and frustrating, but I believe that’s intentional. That’s exactly how Sophie and Ethan are feeling: stuck. They love each other, but the distance and disappointment seem more than they can handle.

And when the alternates are introduced, you try with the original Ethan to figure it out.

This is a well-done, mysterious romantic drama that deserves a watch. It’s also a great example of a low-budget, limited location story that relies on a handful of actors.

Written by Justin Lader and directed by Charlie McDowell.

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What other terrific romantic/dramatic sci-fi movies can I recommend? Be sure to watch:

  • The Adjustment Bureau starring Matt Damon and Emily Blunt
  • Another Earth starring Brit Marling and William Mapother

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Have you seen The One I Love? What are your favorite romantic sci-fi films?

Filed Under: Fiction Writing Tagged With: elizabeth moss, justin laser, mark duplass, sci-fi romance, the one I love movie, the one I love movie review, writing fiction

Bad Traits for Characters 2: From Mildly Annoying to Deal-Breaker, From This Makes for a Fine Villain to Let’s Put This Person to Jail Forever

Posted on August 9, 2016 Written by Pinar Tarhan

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This is a sequel to the post where I listed bad personality traits and flaws for your characters in any genre. The idea is to make our protagonists and supporting characters more human, especially if we are writing romances or romantic comedies.

That said, any traits can be combined, taken to the extreme and can be used for any genre and character, including your villains and antagonists. And remember, one person’s bad trait is a good one for another. That’s how we get conflicts, baby!

Let’s roll:

  • trigger-happy cop/agent
  • trigger-happy civilian
  • too flirty: the compulsive flirt who can’t stop even if they are in a committed relationship. It’s a reflex that annoys the hell out of their partner. Some of them will even act on it.
  • creepy/stalkerish
  • with inferiority complex
  • with superiority complex: These characters have inferiority complex, but mask it with narcisism.
  • indecisive about everything
  • petty
  • no common sense
  • entitled
  • constant victim mentality: loves (wrongly) blaming everybody and everything else
  • doesn’t know own limits
  • doesn’t respect others’ limits
  • kissass/ teacher’s pet/boss’ pet
  • stuck-up
  • square
  • not open to new experiences
  • too outdoorsy to the point you can’t plan an indoors event
  • dances all night vs. never, ever dances even on your birthday
  • criticizes anything and everything
  • criticizes you constantly
  • too pessimistic
  • too optimistic
  • too realistic
  • lives in fantasy world , never leaves vs. doesn’t have a fantasy world: no imagination
  • parental issues that prove Freud right
  • possessive/controlling
  • lazy
  • unstable/inconsistent/too unpredictable
  • too predictable
  • cranky
  • too snarky
  • too proud vs. no pride
  • bad drunk/always high/compulsive gambler/chain smoker
  • inarticulate
  • unhelpful
  • emotionally stunted/immature
  • relentless gossip – never says these to the person’s face
  • back-stabber/disloyal
  • only loyalty themselves
  • annoyingly blunt
  • no volume control/rowdy
  • impersonal
  • distant
  • cliché-ridden/tacky
  • paranoid/conspiracy-theorist
  • always anxious without an anxiety disorder
  • sponge/mirror: always resembles whoever they are with: mimics their personality
  • commitmentphobe vs. addicted to relationships/can’t be alone
  • doesn’t respect/give personal space
  • too flaky
  • horrible at grammar/always uses textese
  • glued to TV/smartphone/ipad/computer
  • obnoxious
  • hates traveling
  • ghoster: Instead of breaking up/rejecting properly leaves
  • can’t hold a job because of severe unprofessionalism
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Filed Under: Fiction Writing, Inspiration and Motivation Tagged With: bad personality traits for fictional characters, personality trait ideas for fiction writers, writing fiction, writing realistic fiction

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